Congratulations on completing the Mother Wound Quiz!

Your Mother Wound Archetype is the “Rebel”

Before we dive deeper into this archetype,
I want to share some important context.

There are three main archetypes of the Mother Wound that we carry as adult daughters:

The Good Girl, the Rebel, and the Black Sheep.

All of us have elements of every one of these archetypes, but we tend to be dominant in only one of them. Read your results below to learn which archetype you most resonate with based on the answers to the questions on the quiz.

About the “Rebel”

You tend to be blunt, funny, perceptive, witty, and strong. By some, you’ve been called a badass. You are good at reading people and situations. You have long been adept at taking care of yourself and doing what you have to do, even when others disagree. You like adventure and variety. You may often hesitate to trust others or be slow to put your cards on the table. Being in touch with your emotions and what you feel about things can be difficult for you. Emotions can feel overwhelming at times, and sometimes it seems easier to ignore them. You may vacillate between feeling flooded by emotions or shut down.

You may be surrounded by many people but sometimes struggle with loneliness or feeling misunderstood.

Your Dynamics with your Mother as a Child:

There may have been volatility or lack of structure in your household. You may have felt overwhelmed by the intensity of your mother’s feelings, needs, and outbursts. You may have hidden from your mother, been protected by older siblings, checked out, or left home younger than usual. You may have felt a lot of pressure from your mother or from the family in general. You may have longed for more attention or affection from your mother, but it didn’t feel safe to express this need openly. You may have felt neglected or unprotected by your mother, perhaps even falling through the cracks. You had to be strong and protect yourself in moments, having to “power through.”

Your Dynamics with your Mother as an Adult:

You don’t feel very close to your mother and perhaps never have beyond obligatory communication and gestures. Your relationship with her feels complicated and stressful much of the time. You may feel some deep resentment towards your mother about how she was emotionally demanding but yet dismissive of you and neglected your needs as a child. You may harbor anger about her lack of self-awareness and how that impacted you as a kid. You may have felt quite “on your own” as a young adult. Your mother may be self-absorbed and doesn’t put in much effort to get to know you better. You feel unseen but struggle with the knowing that your mother also suffered a lot as a child. Your mother may “play the role” and say the typical motherly things but never actually follow through, which leaves you feeling unseen and unvalued by her. You may feel in a slump for days after seeing her.

What is the Mother Wound?

Before going further, I’d like to share a brief explanation of what the “Mother Wound” is.

The Mother Wound is the pain rooted in our relationship with our mothers that is passed down through generations of women in patriarchal cultures and has a profound effect on our lives. When left unresolved, we pass on the Mother Wound that our mothers and grandmothers before us failed to heal, on to the next generation.

The Mother Wound is a combination of unhealed childhood trauma and the patriarchal beliefs that say women are inferior and should remain small, silent and self-sacrificing in order to be loved. Often our mothers passed down these beliefs either with the intention to protect us and help us fit in to a patriarchal world, or due to their own unconscious projections of their disowned pain. As little girls, our basic human needs for love, safety and belonging (most acutely felt with our mothers) became blended to some degree with the toxic belief that we must be “small” in order to be loved. Thus, the Mother Wound sets us up to struggle as women with perpetual feelings of low self-esteem, low self-worth, shame, self-doubt, guilt and never feeling good enough.

This is NOT about blaming our mothers or making them wrong; it’s about taking radical responsibility for our own healing, owning our inner gifts without shame, and doing our part to liberate women as a whole.

Symptoms of how the Mother Wound manifests
for the “REBEL” include:

  • Impulsive behavior and choices that haven’t been totally thought through first
  • Difficulty communicating your needs and asking for what you want in relationships
  • It may feel hard to be vulnerable and share your feelings openly and honestly
  • Self-sabotaging when getting close to a breakthrough
  • Getting caught in mental loops or negative thoughts that cause you to doubt yourself
  • Acting out, withdrawing from people, or pushing people away when overwhelmed
  • Avoiding people you actually care about and self-isolating when feeling stressed
  • Underestimating your strengths, talents, and skills
  • Making negative assumptions about yourself, others, and life

Benefits of Healing the Mother Wound for the “REBEL” if you commit to the healing process…

  • Honoring your needs without shame
  • Embracing your inherent goodness and seeing you are lovable to the core
  • Less need to prove anything about your worth to other people
  • Feeling more confident about your value, skills, and what you bring to the table
  • Better discernment when evaluating people and projects to connect to
  • Feeling the validity of your feelings and having more self-compassion
  • Opening your heart with less fear and more courage
  • Deeper connections with others
  • More joyful and creative self-expression

The Mother Wound isn’t something we need to avoid or feel shame about, it’s a doorway to our full power and potential.”


Now that you know your Archetype, what’s next?

Now that you know your archetype of the Mother Wound, it’s time to talk about another, very different archetype that emerges in us as women as we heal it.

Introducing the archetype of the “SOVEREIGN”

The Sovereign is an archetype that emerges in us as we heal the Mother Wound and start to own our power and potential as women. The energy of the Sovereign is rooted in self-respect and self-love, and it transforms how we see ourselves and the world around us.

As we heal the Mother Wound, we shed the many layers of shame that we inherited from our families of origin and the culture. As we shed the shame, we embrace the innocence and worth of the child we were growing up in a dysfunctional family. We practice inner mothering, giving to this child what we did not get from our own mothers, creating a deep bond of trust with the child within.

As the inner child heals, your true power as a woman can come forward

Through confronting your past and grieving, allowing your anger a safe space to be lovingly held and processed, powerful clarity emerges, and your self-worth is more fully realized and embodied.

The Sovereign’s profound level of self-love comes from having uncovered her true self from the old residues of childhood trauma, feeling deep self-respect and self-compassion, and claiming one’s inherent worth and goodness as the core of one’s being. The Sovereign has shed and continues to shed old, outdated limiting beliefs, value systems, and worldviews that she inherited from culture, family, and media. She defines herself for herself and is guided by a commitment to personal integrity, listening to her truth within, and serving that inner spark.

The Sovereign knows her worth and claims her space without shame

The Sovereign is unapologetically strict about who has access to her and has a high standard for people she is close to, valuing reciprocity, depth, maturity, and authenticity in others. This level of discernment in relationships isn’t ego or narcissism but an expression of solid self-worth. She shows up in her relationships with potent integrity, radical honesty, and authentic care. There is no longer a “false self” to protect or defend, so she is no longer pulled into power plays, ego, or drama.

She treasures the real, the true, and the authentic in herself and others. She trusts the larger plan for her life and follows her own organic unfolding process, feeling awe, gratitude, and reverence for the dignity of her journey. She honors others and their own healing journeys as well, not judging, carrying, or over-functioning for them but respecting them and knowing that they will get what they need along the way – when they are ready.

The Sovereign has discovered herself as the primary source of what she desires most

The Sovereign has discovered herself as the primary source of her own safety, love, and joy, and because of this, she is no longer seeking from the external world what she missed in childhood. This frees not only herself but the other people in her life. She is a channel for original thought, new energies, and solutions to come forward in whatever area of life she is active, whether that be as a mother, a home health aide, a community member, a CEO, or a political figure – or any combination thereof. The Sovereign radiates a frequency of possibility and inspiration for all around her. She is alive with the inner spark of her own being. She rejoices in the gift of her own existence, savors her one precious life, and blesses those around her just by being her true self and following her path.

The Sovereign Archetype emerges within us
as we Heal the Mother Wound.

As the Sovereign, you stop over-functioning and codependent behaviors:
  • No longer live in constant response to others’ demands
  • Cease emotional care-taking and over-functioning for others, creating space for yourself to flourish at the highest level
  • Respectfully allow others to take ownership of their own lessons and journeys
  • Start trusting your own impulses, desires, inner senses, and intuition
  • Allow yourself to be human and make mistakes without shame
As the Sovereign, you release patterns keeping you stuck and small:
  • Dissolve destructive unconscious patterns that are sneakily holding you back
  • Take emotional risks, be open, undefended, and radically honest
  • Own your physical presence with confidence and power
  • Really take in that your greatest service to others is living your best life possible
  • Cultivate an inner mother who unconditionally supports, comforts, and encourages you
  • Bring forth a whole new level of depth and power to your workplace, and those you serve
  • Viscerally feel the reality of your own infinite worth and goodness and allow that to flow into all that you do
As the Sovereign, you set healthy boundaries and become calmly assertive:
  • Discover the life-changing power of a clean, respectful, unapologetic “No”
  • Confidently set firm boundaries that support your highest self
  • Powerfully hold space for others to know their deeper truths
  • Easily make decisions from a place of inner alignment
  • Break the illusory link between your mother’s suffering and your success
  • Easily turn away from things, people, and projects that are not a match for you
  • Let go of guilt and get in touch with the validity of your own needs, feelings, and longings


As the Sovereign, you experience more pleasure and feel safe bringing your gifts to the world:
  • Experience more joy, play and easily welcome good things into your life
  • Cultivate the inner safety necessary to truly innovate and bring forward new ideas and information
  • Experience the freedom of being imperfect without self-recrimination
  • Experience abundance as part of your own nature, not something outside of you
  • Feel that it’s truly safe to succeed and flourish on every level
  • Attract quality relationships that honor and reflect the maturity and depth that you have cultivated through your own evolving journey of growth

Are you ready to start embodying the energy
of the Sovereign archetype?

Not just in a conceptual way, but in a profoundly visceral way, embodying more of your full power
and potential as a woman at this time in history?

If you feel a full body YES to reading this, I want to invite you to join me in the online course
on Healing the Mother Wound.

learn more and enroll here