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Your Mother Wound Archetype is the “Good Girl”

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Before we dive deeper into this archetype, I want to share some important context:

There are three main archetypes of the Mother Wound that we carry as adult daughters:

The Good Girl, the Rebel, and the Black Sheep.

All of us have elements of every one of these archetypes, but we tend to be dominant in only one of them. Read your results below to learn which archetype you most resonate with based on the answers to the questions on the quiz.

About the “Good Girl”

You are a sensitive, empathic, compassionate, and perceptive person. From a young age, you felt a sense of leadership and responsibility in your family. (You may be the oldest child in your family.) As an adult, you may struggle with shame, overwhelm, exhaustion, and with not feeling seen and heard in your relationships.

Your Dynamics with your Mother as a Child:

Your mother may have depended upon you from a young age, which made you feel special and important. You may have been rewarded for being mature, independent, and self-sufficient as a child. However, when you needed help or emotional support, your mother may have been emotionally-distant, distracted, dismissive of your feelings, or silent when you reached out for help. This was very painful but spurred you on to try harder to be even more pleasing to get her approval, which always seemed out of reach. You may have felt like you had to be strong and hide your pain behind a smile. You may have felt invisible as a child, more like an object, doll or toy than a real person.

Your Dynamics with your Mother as an Adult:

You show up as the dutiful daughter and it’s been important to you to have a harmonious relationship with your mother. However, you’ve noticed that don’t feel comfortable being fully yourself around your mother. You long for a closer, deeper, or more authentic relationship with her but sense there are certain topics or things that your mother does not want to talk about. In moments you may feel your mother feels some jealousy or hostility towards you. Your mother may praise you but in ways that are focused on the surface, on performance, image, status, or achievements. This feels like, in some ways, she doesn’t know the real you or might not even want to know the real you. Your mother may have strong beliefs and be superficial, somewhat petty, or gossipy, staying on the surface of life and not going too deep, which you may find frustrating and sad.

What is the Mother Wound?

Before going further, I’d like to share a brief explanation of what the “Mother Wound” is.

The Mother Wound is the pain rooted in our relationship with our mothers that is passed down through generations of women in patriarchal cultures and has a profound effect on our lives. When left unresolved, we pass on the Mother Wound that our mothers and grandmothers before us failed to heal, on to the next generation.

The Mother Wound is a combination of unhealed childhood trauma and the patriarchal beliefs that say women are inferior and should remain small, silent and self-sacrificing in order to be loved. Often our mothers passed down these beliefs either with the intention to protect us and help us fit into a patriarchal world, or due to their own unconscious projections of their disowned pain. As little girls, our basic human needs for love, safety and belonging (most acutely felt with our mothers) became blended to some degree with the toxic belief that we must be “small” in order to be loved. Thus, the Mother Wound sets us up to struggle as women with perpetual feelings of low self-esteem, low self-worth, shame, self-doubt, guilt and never feeling good enough.

This is NOT about blaming our mothers or making them wrong; it’s about taking radical responsibility for our own healing, owning our inner gifts without shame, and doing our part to liberate women as a whole.

Symptoms of how the Mother Wound
manifests for the “Good Girl” include:

Over-functioning, feeling emotionally exhausted, and feeling unseen in your relationships
Difficulty setting boundaries, speaking your truth or asking for what you want
Feeling anger or resentment about not being appreciated or reciprocated
Comparing yourself with other people and strive for external validation to feel loved
Struggling with overeating, over-spending, or under-earning

Attracting “under-functioning” friends and partners who rely too much on you
Settling for less than you deserve and accepting crumbs of approval
Feeling like you must strive and work hard to feel worthy
Feeling resentment for being taken for granted in relationships
Desiring to be more authentic with others but fearing that others may reject you in response

Benefits of Healing the Mother Wound for the
“Good Girl” if you commit to the healing process…

Raising your standards for relationships
No longer tolerating lopsided relationships that drain you
Saying No respectfully and directly without guilt
Listening to your needs and honoring your limits without guilt
Speaking your truth, even if it bucks the crowd
Calmly standing your ground in the face of other people who do not understand you
Feeling liberated to be creative, free, and uninhibited
No longer settling for crumbs of attention or lack of respect
More time and energy for yourself, a sense of freedom
More rest, relaxation, and nourishing solitude

The Mother Wound isn’t something we need to avoid or feel shame about, it’s a doorway to our full power and potential.”

BETHANY WEBSTER

Now that you know your Archetype,
what’s next?

Now that you know your archetype of the Mother Wound, it’s time to talk about another, very different archetype that emerges in us as we heal it.

Introducing the archetype of the “SOVEREIGN”

The Sovereign is an archetype that emerges in us as we heal the Mother Wound and start to own our power and potential as women. The energy of the Sovereign is rooted in self-respect and self-love, and it transforms how we see ourselves and the world around us.

As we heal the Mother Wound, we shed the many layers of shame that we inherited from our families of origin and the culture. As we shed the shame, we embrace the innocence and inherent worth of the child we were growing up in a dysfunctional family. We practice inner mothering, giving to this child what we did not get from our own mothers, creating a deep bond of trust with the child within.

As the inner child heals, your true power as a woman can come forward

Through confronting your past and grieving, allowing your anger a safe space to be lovingly held and processed, powerful clarity emerges, and your self-worth is more fully realized and viscerally embodied.

The Sovereign’s profound level of self-love and self-worth comes from having uncovered her true self from the old residues of childhood trauma, feeling deep self-respect and self-compassion, and claiming one’s inherent worth and goodness as the inviolate core of one’s being. The Sovereign has shed and continues to shed old, outdated limiting beliefs, value systems, and worldviews that she inherited from culture, family, and media. She defines herself for herself and is guided by a commitment to personal integrity, listening to her truth within, and serving that inner spark.

The Sovereign knows her worth and claims her space without shame

The Sovereign is unapologetically strict about who has access to her and has a high standard for people she is close to, valuing reciprocity, depth, maturity, and authenticity in others. This level of discernment in relationships isn’t ego or narcissism but an expression of solid self-worth. She shows up in her relationships with potent integrity, radical honesty, and authentic care. There is no longer a “false self” to protect or defend, so she is no longer pulled into power plays, ego, or drama.

The Sovereign treasures the real, the true, and the authentic in herself and others. She trusts the larger plan for her life and follows her own organic unfolding process, feeling awe, gratitude, and reverence for the dignity of her journey. She honors others and their own healing journeys as well, not judging, carrying, or over-functioning for them but respecting them and knowing that they will get what they need along the way – when they are ready.

The Sovereign has discovered herself as the primary source of what she desires most

The Sovereign has discovered herself as the primary source of her own safety, love, and joy, and because of this, she is no longer seeking from the external world what she missed in childhood. This frees not only herself but the other people in her life. She is a channel for original thought, new energies, and solutions to come forward in whatever area of life she is active, whether that be as a mother, a home health aide, a community member, a CEO, or a political figure – or any combination thereof. The Sovereign radiates a frequency of possibility and inspiration for all around her. She is alive with the inner spark of her own being. She rejoices in the gift of her own existence, savors her one precious life, and blesses those around her just by being her true self and following her path.

The Sovereign Archetype emerges within us
as we Heal the Mother Wound.

As the Sovereign, you stop over-functioning and codependent behaviors:

No longer live in constant response to others’ demands
Cease emotional care-taking and over-functioning for others, creating space for yourself to flourish at the highest level
Respectfully allow others to take ownership of their own lessons and journeys
Start trusting your own impulses, desires, inner senses, and intuition
Allow yourself to be human and make mistakes without shame

As the Sovereign, you release patterns keeping you stuck and small:

Dissolve destructive unconscious patterns that are sneakily holding you back
Take emotional risks, be open, undefended, and radically honest
Own your physical presence with confidence and power
Really take in that your greatest service to others is living your best life possible
Cultivate an inner mother who unconditionally supports, comforts, and encourages you
Bring forth a whole new level of depth and power to your workplace, and those you serve
Viscerally feel the reality of your own infinite worth and goodness and allow that to flow into all that you do

As the Sovereign, you set healthy boundaries and become calmly assertive:

Discover the life-changing power of a clean, respectful, unapologetic “No”
Confidently set firm boundaries that support your highest self
Powerfully hold space for others to know their deeper truths
Easily make decisions from a place of inner alignment
Break the illusory link between your mother’s suffering and your success
Easily turn away from things, people, and projects that are not a match for you
Let go of guilt and get in touch with the validity of your own needs, feelings, and longings

As the Sovereign, you experience more pleasure and feel safe bringing your gifts to the world:

Experience more joy, play and easily welcome good things into your life
Cultivate the inner safety necessary to truly innovate and bring forward new ideas and information
Experience the freedom of being imperfect without self-recrimination
Experience abundance as part of your own nature, not something outside of you
Feel that it’s truly safe to succeed and flourish on every level
Attract quality relationships that honor and reflect the maturity and depth that you have cultivated through your own evolving journey of growth

Are you ready to start embodying the energy
of the Sovereign Archetype?

Not just in a conceptual way, but in a profoundly visceral way, embodying more of your full
power and potential as a woman at this time in history?

If you feel a full body YES to reading this, I want to invite you to join me in the online
course on Healing the Mother Wound.

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